Hi,

I think it's very very hard to find the guy that is right for me. i had a few boyfriends before, and they are either too short-tempered or too different from what i expected. yes i like good looking ones, but i also appreciate guys who are charming, intelligent, interesting and ambitious.

my two-year relationship was finished by an aggressive fight a couple of days ago. now i dont even have a strong shoulder to cry on

I want to know more people as yet just being friends, but it seems very hard to start a relationship (even friendship). i dont like just picking up guys from pub or internet. but how often do you get come across your Mr. Right on the street? i think it will be NEVER

i dont want a lonely Christmas, i think i will cry my eyes out.
anybody suggest good location that i can meet interesting groups of people that i can hang around during weekend and holidays?

p.s i am a very attractive girl with a lot interests.i believe that i can fit in easily. but where should i start? (i dont want nasty people to brother me around.)

thanks
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Have you tried the site Meetup? You sign up for a location and get regular emails about the different meetings going on in your city. Meetings are based on a particular interest. I have signed up and get emails about what is happening in Melbourne, but I am yet to go to any of the meetings, plus I am traveling at the moment.

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Real Australian blokes are a dying breed

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First of all some levity, and Mike, was that a SNAG doing a survey with just SNAGS on SNAGS or are they a died out version of the species too and it's all Metros now isn't it?

And Coffee, I do feel for your predicament and sad about any break up even if this one was meant to be and yes a few tears or more than a few is quite understandable.
Not that I've seen any surveys but I've heard of a few women saying that a good bottle of wine, a block of chocolate and a good book is sometimes more companionable than most of us fellas, and then get yourself a big cuddly teddy bear and you're nearly there.

For Xmas, and not to be alone I saw a reference one Xmas to people going and volunteering at food outlets and other places for the poor, needy and I imagine old peoples homes could do with help too, and though probably not the company you were considering you certainly will not be alone and helping to cheer up other can I expect put a smile on the dial.

And you never know, there could be a son or grandson or whomever you get connected to.

But stay well and posting can be a good tonic too.

i think it will take a long time for me to get over this and get used to be single again. whenever what i am doing at the moment, my mind keeps flushing back, which made me upset and depressed, especially that i was the spoiled one in the relationship.

anyway, i feel weird talking to strangers. i went out last night and some random guys came to talk to me, but i did not feel relax at all. is that normal that i am too used to my ex's style and can not accept others? i dont want to be judgmental but the first thought came across my head was to escape when i saw someone approaching.

Hi again Coffee, and re
"anyway, i feel weird talking to strangers. i went out last night and some random guys came to talk to me, but i did not feel relax at all. is that normal that i am too used to my ex's style and can not accept others?"

Yes I'd say that it is very normal that you get so used to conversing with a single other in a relationship and I know myself whenever I have been out singularly socialising that approaching and knowing what to talk about can be difficult at first.

If you find you have some common interests that will help, but as you say it can take some time for the heart and mind to resettle itself and so you just have to ask yourself how far and hard you push it for now.

But do not dwell for too long on what has been either for that for sure will make you moody and unhappy.
A walk in fresh sea air if you can get down there is always good or even a walk in the park - maybe there's a dog shelter in the neighbourhood that has plenty of dogs looking for a pal to take them out for a walk.

I think i miss my ex-boyfriend's dog more than him.....

oh god, how can i get through this, i kept on thinking about before, and could not keep my mind of the broken relationship.... i need help!