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Old 04-28-2013, 01:50 PM
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Not an option, she says she won't visit let alone move there, I can't even persaude her to apply for a passport. Whenever I raise the subject or if my son does she clams up and changes the subject.
I doubt it will take her long to change her mind once she realizes you aren't changing yours and she hasn't seen her grandson for months. Right now she is desperate for this change not to happen so she's throwing out all the stops. Or at least, I hope so because that's the only excuse I can think of for trying to scare your son about moving...

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this is true what your saying but as i said earlier it doesnt stop us from feeling like crap lol what you are saying is so true and i couldnt agree more BUT when we speak to our parents over the phone/skype ect they seem to be miserable and sad and always asking the same question or making the same statement, " when am i going to see the children, when are you bringing them over" it is emotional black mail and it stinks but hey thats parents for you, some accept and some dont, like you said they will get used to the idea but there always that heart ache we feel, just thinking about this makes me feel i have let my parents down. Your advice is good and so true but it doesnt stop us hurting and worryng and thats the draw back thats what stops us from fully enjoying this wonderful country. If only they would say " its ok darling i,ll be ok" but they dont.

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My parents accepted my decision 10 years ago to move here. I had a bit of problem for the first year or two with them saying "wish you were here" and so on but as the time went it stopped.

Besides, they are now aware that I will never come back. My life is here, my wife is here (and she is an immigrant too) and my son was born and will grow up here. All my financial assets and investments are here and all my professional experience is also from here. It would be illogical to even consider going back... I would consider getting my parents down here but my mother does not get along well with my wife.


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Dexter, if your parents come for a holiday then grit your teeth lol. if they come over to live here then rent them a place some where, its sad when your partner is not liked by family members it always makes things a little tricky.

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this is true what your saying but as i said earlier it doesnt stop us from feeling like crap lol what you are saying is so true and i couldnt agree more BUT when we speak to our parents over the phone/skype ect they seem to be miserable and sad and always asking the same question or making the same statement, " when am i going to see the children, when are you bringing them over" it is emotional black mail and it stinks but hey thats parents for you, some accept and some dont, like you said they will get used to the idea but there always that heart ache we feel, just thinking about this makes me feel i have let my parents down. Your advice is good and so true but it doesnt stop us hurting and worryng and thats the draw back thats what stops us from fully enjoying this wonderful country. If only they would say " its ok darling i,ll be ok" but they dont.

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With the exception of kids in the picture, I know how you feel. I'm here now with my folks, but have been gone for 3 years. They weren't thrilled when I left and are pretty sad that I'm now moving to make it permanent.

But, like I said - even when it tears you up... Sometimes you have to do what's best for you.

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My mother won't... She cannot stand a 1 hour flight and to Australia she would need to endure 3 flights, two of them average of 10 hours.

My father had been invited long time ago but he wants to retire first before coming over.


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With the exception of kids in the picture, I know how you feel. I'm here now with my folks, but have been gone for 3 years. They weren't thrilled when I left and are pretty sad that I'm now moving to make it permanent.

But, like I said - even when it tears you up... Sometimes you have to do what's best for you.
Couldnt agree more with you, it does tear us up but like you said we have to do whats best for us

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My mother won't... She cannot stand a 1 hour flight and to Australia she would need to endure 3 flights, two of them average of 10 hours.

My father had been invited long time ago but he wants to retire first before coming over.
Dexter were is your mum flying from? Poor women 3 flights and over 20 hours jeez thats bad i thought i had it bad flying from Malta 27 hours, with only a 2 hour stop off at dubai and even then we arrived late so it was a case of FIFO ahhh im sounding like an Australian already how cool is that.

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And realise your grown-up decision, will produce inferior qualifications for your children. Small sacrifice to pay for leaving your ancestral home dumping the only person who stood by you, and all for the grown up decision of having a swimming pool and a large TV.

Material vs Culture. traditions and family.

Materials will win.


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And realise your grown-up decision, will produce inferior qualifications for your children. Small sacrifice to pay for leaving your ancestral home dumping the only person who stood by you, and all for the grown up decision of having a swimming pool and a large TV.

Material vs Culture. traditions and family.

Materials will win.
It's obvious from your other threads that you are very bitter about something, ephestion, but there is no need to lash out at other members in this forum and what they're going through. You obviously have no advice, support or experiences to contribute to this thread.

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