[fionaseth]

I met my husband online we talked for a few years and i went to meet him in ghana and we got married. I returned home found out i was pregnant and applied for his visa. I paid for everything but i didnt mind.he came on tourist visa for 6 months a month before I gave birth. He was always on his phone talking to people and we had a few problems him always talking to people at all hours. He returned home until partner visa approved then came back few months later everything was good until i found information that he had been on dating sites he denied it. We did a few seasons of marriage counseling he was still constantly on the phone not affection or loving nature towards me.. I found out i was pregnant and miscarriage at 16 weeks he was not supportive. I found out I had an std he didn't care i was upset just refuse to talk about it. He started going out hours and not telling me where was always being secretive and nasty. He would do things on purpose to annoy me and get a reaction. One day i couldn't cope and he was recording me on his phone i tried to grab his phone off him and he grabbed me by the throat the camera was down so you couldn't see but hear. I responded by doing the wrong thing and hit him he kept recording me crying and really upset he called the police on me i had to leave for 12 hours. He left for a week and came back. I got told if i thought he was provoking me in any way to call the police and have him removed. He was constantly provoking me by making calls laughing about me with people on the phone and constantly being nasty with comments to people on phone this isnt marriage its hell then laugh. emotional and mental abuse.
I called the police to have him removed for 3 days but he never came back . A week later he tried to charge me with assault using the video i explain to the police about all the mental and emotional abuse him on dating sites going out hours not saying where the miscarriage no support and suspicious activity in the end they said i was provoked and didn't lay charges. Hes been gone 6 weeks with me knowing nothing about what he does. I recently found out off a friend of his he is going to claim domestic violence and break off the marriage and stay here. He is in emergency house but messaging me telling me he misses me and its only a break not separate living. He was lying all this time i really need help i don't know what to do i have evidence of dating sites ect and everyone knows how he treated me but i think he will be able to stay here after all this and then go for custody of our daughter just to stay here. When i know he came and tried only a few months later to date other women and still does. I think he married me just to come here im so heart broken because I really love him and thought he was genuinely wanting marriage and a life together. The 100 visa needs to be done in October i am not going to sign anything but because of the domestic violence claim i think it wouldn't matter if i signed or not? Im heartbroken and scared of losing my child because of things he planned and provoked

 

[Mania]

Revokeing your sponsorship is all you can do in regards to the visa.

The police and the courts will deal with the domestic violence claims.

Wether he gets the visa or not will not be disclosed to you once you pull your sponsorship and will be for him to deal with immigration.

Considering the fact there's always 2 sides to a story and he has a video it will be a complex case for them.

 

[Mania]

Revokeing your sponsorship is all you can do in regards to the visa.

The police and the courts will deal with the domestic violence claims.

Wether he gets the visa or not will not be disclosed to you once you pull your sponsorship and will be for him to deal with immigration.

Considering the fact there's always 2 sides to a story and he has a video it will be a complex case for them.

 

[Mania]

Oh and if your relationships broken down you are obligated to inform immigration. Signing a stat dec that's known to be incorrect is an offence so it will make a big difference to you if you sign it or not..by signing it you potentially open yourself up to blackmail.

 

[FreddoBee]

Definitely you need to advise Immigration that your relationship has ended, if that is the case.

He may try and claim special circumstances to stay, citing the domestic violence towards him by you, but you say that the police didn't lay charges, so I doubt that would hold any influence.

His behaviour towards you has been obviously bad with the abuse and violence and if you have witnesses to back you up this would go against him. I would seek the help of a Migration Agent(sticky list at the start of the forum) as you say "The 100 visa needs to be done in October". I'm not sure what you mean by that. I also suggest that you need relationship counselling and legal advice about what to do next, particularly in regard to your daughter and custody.

 

[Okey114]

I met my husband online we talked for a few years and i went to meet him in ghana and we got married. I returned home found out i was pregnant and applied for his visa. I paid for everything but i didnt mind.he came on tourist visa for 6 months a month before I gave birth. He was always on his phone talking to people and we had a few problems him always talking to people at all hours. He returned home until partner visa approved then came back few months later everything was good until i found information that he had been on dating sites he denied it. We did a few seasons of marriage counseling he was still constantly on the phone not affection or loving nature towards me.. I found out i was pregnant and miscarriage at 16 weeks he was not supportive. I found out I had an std he didn't care i was upset just refuse to talk about it. He started going out hours and not telling me where was always being secretive and nasty. He would do things on purpose to annoy me and get a reaction. One day i couldn't cope and he was recording me on his phone i tried to grab his phone off him and he grabbed me by the throat the camera was down so you couldn't see but hear. I responded by doing the wrong thing and hit him he kept recording me crying and really upset he called the police on me i had to leave for 12 hours. He left for a week and came back. I got told if i thought he was provoking me in any way to call the police and have him removed. He was constantly provoking me by making calls laughing about me with people on the phone and constantly being nasty with comments to people on phone this isnt marriage its hell then laugh. emotional and mental abuse.
I called the police to have him removed for 3 days but he never came back . A week later he tried to charge me with assault using the video i explain to the police about all the mental and emotional abuse him on dating sites going out hours not saying where the miscarriage no support and suspicious activity in the end they said i was provoked and didn't lay charges. Hes been gone 6 weeks with me knowing nothing about what he does. I recently found out off a friend of his he is going to claim domestic violence and break off the marriage and stay here. He is in emergency house but messaging me telling me he misses me and its only a break not separate living. He was lying all this time i really need help i don't know what to do i have evidence of dating sites ect and everyone knows how he treated me but i think he will be able to stay here after all this and then go for custody of our daughter just to stay here. When i know he came and tried only a few months later to date other women and still does. I think he married me just to come here im so heart broken because I really love him and thought he was genuinely wanting marriage and a life together. The 100 visa needs to be done in October i am not going to sign anything but because of the domestic violence claim i think it wouldn't matter if i signed or not? Im heartbroken and scared of losing my child because of things he planned and provoked

Your case is simple... Contact immigration and withdraw your sponsorship. He can't and will never have get custody of your daughter.

The evidence of been in a dating site is enough to get his visa canceled but you must prove it to immigration, though is complicated because you both had a child.
Despite that he has 30% chance of remaining in australia
But it gonna cost him some dollars

Don't dare you sign stat dec in his visa 100.

Also emotional blackmail is considered as abuse according to immigration law

 

[Mania]

Your case is simple... Contact immigration and withdraw your sponsorship. He can't and will never have get custody of your daughter.

The evidence of been in a dating site is enough to get his visa canceled but you must prove it to immigration, though is complicated because you both had a child.
Despite that he has 30% chance of remaining in australia
But it gonna cost him some dollars

Don't dare you sign stat dec in his visa 100.

Also emotional blackmail is considered as abuse according to immigration law

"Proving" use of a dating site will not necessarily result in cancelation of the visa. These cases are far from "simple".

Custody of children can be granted to either party, so I don't know where you get the "will never get" bit from.

A recent survey on statistics found 63% were accurate 37% were inaccurate and a further 18% had no idea how they came to that percentage...

The bottom two paragraphs are perfect though.

 

[fionaseth]

I only have screenshots of the dating site i have a screenshot of his handwriting on paper with dating sites and passwords also phone numbers of women from sites i text a woman on one of the numbers to see if they met or just talked i screenshot that a woman on Facebook messanger saying she loves him and hes fooling me i have std result and i know 1000 percent it wasn't me. I think hes deleted everything so theres no proof as he said prove everything you are saying and laughed. He is in emergency house for domestic violence yet still message me declaring love and he will be home soon its just a break he message friends and say the same thing its not separation only a break he has visit and stayed the day 3 times he told me he was in a house but didn't tell me emergency housing for violence a friend told me. Hes been gone 6 weeks i know nothing about his life i dont know if hes told immagration of his new address if immagration asked i would not have a clue about anything. I had to go on single payments on centerlink because he left got a job but hasn't given any money this whole time i only know he has a job paying $800 a week not where he works he hasn't even brought a pack of nappies for his daughter. Centerlink applied for him not to pay matinence because of emotional and mental abuse so i guess i cant ask for money from him and he never offers. Our daughter is unwell been to hospital supposed to have stayed over night but i had no support caring for my other children at home and he said to busy to come stay because im working 2 times so had to leave hospital when we should have stayed message me yesterday saying everything will be ok soon he loves me so much

 

[FreddoBee]

I only have screenshots of the dating site i have a screenshot of his handwriting on paper with dating sites and passwords...

I feel that you are getting into areas that are not able to be addressed on this forum when you are talking about evidence of infidelity etc.

As suggested on here, the first thing to do is to advise Immigration of the ending of your relationship, if that has really ended. You seem unsure about that, almost like you are waiting for him to return. If your relationship is not ongoing then it's possible that the 100 Visa won't be granted.

You need advice and support from relationship and legal experts as well as from a Migration Agent.

 

[fionaseth]

Ok thank you