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Here we go....

I am an Oz citizen, who wants to go home and is sick of the UK. I am married to an Englishman and we have a 2 1/2 year old boy together. We met in 2007, married in 2008.

Possible complications:
Husband has history of depression due to a traumatic childhood
Husband hasn't worked for a while (but has a degree in Physics and Psychology)
Finances are in a state

I spent my single life as a workaholic, but have realised that having a little boy is so much more worthwhile. Unfortunately, our finances are in a bad mess and I will have to go back to work, which I am no stranger to. I haven't worked since August 2010. I am sure with my support my husband will be able to do some work when we are in Oz, I have to chip away at it slowly.

I have recently been looking for jobs here in the UK, but half heartedly as I want to save my energy for the "hopeful" fresh new start in Australia....... I have qualifications in hospitality, care work and some call center work. I want to head into sales, and then eventually I ultimatley want to be a life coach. But, I hope that my appraoch of putting off the job hunt hasnt been a case of "cutting off ones nose to spite my face"????

My husband has been saying that he thinks our application will be rejected before we have even begun. I am going to organise some settlement money through my Dad to have in my bank account when we arrive. I will be fine when we get there as I am energised, motivated, and wanting to hit the ground running :D( once over the jetlag):eek:

Anyway, if anyone has some advice or ideas I would be eternally grateful... I don't think we need to go down the Migration agent route?? Don't have the money anyway.


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hiya, If finances are an issue then we're stuffed too. I'm also Australian and married to a Brit. He stays home looking after our 20 month old son while I work (teacher) he doesn't have a degree but is studying for one at the moment. I still owe the Oz government for my uni studies as I came to the UK straight after finishing and haven't paid back more than a couple of hundred. From what I could tell from the forms they will be more concerned with how YOU as the Australian will prevent your non Australian partner from costing them any money in up keep. I think you're suppose to supply a statement saying how you'll do that. I think I said something like, 'I'll take any job I can get' My parents have also written statements saying we can stay with them as long as we need. So basically you'll probably need something similar from you parent/s or some other relative or friend and that should cover the financial side of things.
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Gidday Ibu, Thank you for replying to my post. Yes, I guess you are right about me being able to support him and that isn;t an issue at all. Where are you at with your application process??
 

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We've just started, about 4 days ago we lodge the forms in London. We're applying for citizenship by descent for our son which seems to be pretty straightforward. My husband's visa application is going to be hampered by a couple of things though. 1. He's lived and worked in Thailand and Malaysia in the last 10 years. The Malaysian police check sounds pretty easy to get but the Thai one requires 3 sets of finger prints (at £30 a set mind you). 2. I'm also a bit worried about the medical as he's been a smoker since he was a teenager. 3. The bigger issue is that he's a British Pakistani Muslim. I don't think they're going to leave any stone unturned because of that.

On the plus side... having a child together seems to reduce the amount of other evidence that needs presenting about the relationship plus we're legally married too. We should hear from our case officer in about 8 days I guess so I can update you then.

To be honest I don't think your husband's depression should stop him from being granted a visa because depression doesn't ordinarily put a great financial strain on government health services. That's what they're really looking to see. Basically they don't want to be 'lumbered' with expensive medical conditions.
 

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I assume you are getting the Thai police clearance whilst out of the country (Thailand).
I just got one for my Thai wife (incountry) and it was simple, straightforward and very inexpensive.

Being muslim should not come into it surely?
 

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We've just started, about 4 days ago we lodge the forms in London. We're applying for citizenship by descent for our son which seems to be pretty straightforward. My husband's visa application is going to be hampered by a couple of things though. 1. He's lived and worked in Thailand and Malaysia in the last 10 years. The Malaysian police check sounds pretty easy to get but the Thai one requires 3 sets of finger prints (at £30 a set mind you). 2. I'm also a bit worried about the medical as he's been a smoker since he was a teenager. 3. The bigger issue is that he's a British Pakistani Muslim. I don't think they're going to leave any stone unturned because of that.

On the plus side... having a child together seems to reduce the amount of other evidence that needs presenting about the relationship plus we're legally married too. We should hear from our case officer in about 8 days I guess so I can update you then.

To be honest I don't think your husband's depression should stop him from being granted a visa because depression doesn't ordinarily put a great financial strain on government health services. That's what they're really looking to see. Basically they don't want to be 'lumbered' with expensive medical conditions.
Good luck with it. I hope it goes well for you. Yes, I have thought about it and I guess it isn't a physical condition that means you aren't relying on expensive meds. I want to apply onshore and get hubby a family sponsored visa so he can be with me. I just don't want to be in th UK anymore and I want to be home!! Will have to ask Dad for the settlement loan soon, and get a job when I get back to OZ.

It sounds like your hubby has done a lot of travel. I hope all of his police checks come back OK. All cases are taken on their own individual merit (as I am told), so because you are in a solid relationship with a child together, and you are working will all go in your favour hopefully.:)

P.S. Is your husband keen on going to OZ, as mine isn't really and that is a struggle ?......

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Here we go....

I am an Oz citizen, who wants to go home and is sick of the UK. I am married to an Englishman and we have a 2 1/2 year old boy together. We met in 2007, married in 2008.

Possible complications:
Husband has history of depression due to a traumatic childhood
Husband hasn't worked for a while (but has a degree in Physics and Psychology)
Finances are in a state

I spent my single life as a workaholic, but have realised that having a little boy is so much more worthwhile. Unfortunately, our finances are in a bad mess and I will have to go back to work, which I am no stranger to. I haven't worked since August 2010. I am sure with my support my husband will be able to do some work when we are in Oz, I have to chip away at it slowly.

I have recently been looking for jobs here in the UK, but half heartedly as I want to save my energy for the "hopeful" fresh new start in Australia....... I have qualifications in hospitality, care work and some call center work. I want to head into sales, and then eventually I ultimatley want to be a life coach. But, I hope that my appraoch of putting off the job hunt hasnt been a case of "cutting off ones nose to spite my face"????

My husband has been saying that he thinks our application will be rejected before we have even begun. I am going to organise some settlement money through my Dad to have in my bank account when we arrive. I will be fine when we get there as I am energised, motivated, and wanting to hit the ground running :D( once over the jetlag):eek:

Anyway, if anyone has some advice or ideas I would be eternally grateful... I don't think we need to go down the Migration agent route?? Don't have the money anyway.

Amanda
A visa applicant needs COMMITMENT. If he thinks he will fail - then he will!
 

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Oh yeah he's keen to go. My parents very nicely paid for us to go last year so they could meet their grandson. It was after spending a very nice 5 weeks enjoying the winter sunshine and partaking of all the free outdoor activities that we decided it might be a better location than London.

I have a job here but don't have anything lined up for when we get there so we'll still need to rely on my parents generousity for a while.

I would say that a commitment to spending a lot of the money is the biggest thing. So far we've spent £1300 I'd say on husbands' visa application, 3 sets of finger prints, and son's application for citizenship by descent. We'll still need to get our son an Australian passport plus there will be whatever costs involved in police checks for UK,Thailand and Malaysia plus whatever the medical costs.....plus I need a new passport. Gah!!!
 

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yes out of country. I think the actually police check is going to be cheap it's just that 3 sets of finger prints with your country's police stamp on it are required. In the UK it has to be done at a particular place and it's £30 a set.

With the current climate of fear about terrorists I do think being Muslim is going to make them scrutinise the application more.
 

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Oh yeah he's keen to go. My parents very nicely paid for us to go last year so they could meet their grandson. It was after spending a very nice 5 weeks enjoying the winter sunshine and partaking of all the free outdoor activities that we decided it might be a better location than London.

I have a job here but don't have anything lined up for when we get there so we'll still need to rely on my parents generousity for a while.

I would say that a commitment to spending a lot of the money is the biggest thing. So far we've spent £1300 I'd say on husbands' visa application, 3 sets of finger prints, and son's application for citizenship by descent. We'll still need to get our son an Australian passport plus there will be whatever costs involved in police checks for UK,Thailand and Malaysia plus whatever the medical costs.....plus I need a new passport. Gah!!!
Even after all I have heard from others I do have a hard case. My parents also paid for us to go for a holiday in 2009, so they could meet their new addition. I remember crying in the middle of Sweanston Street in Melbourne not wanting to go back to the UK. My husband admitted to me that he really doesn't want to go. He thinks it will be the same struggle as it is in the UK. I see it differently (of course), as I would rather struggle at home than in the UK any day!!

I have read some rather negative comments on various Australia blogs around, claiming how Australia isn't the land of opportunity as it once was, and it has become expensive. I have been away for 10 years (on and off), and I guess I will go back with my rose tinted glasses off and be a bit more real about it. I still think it will be a better place to bring up my boy and my family are there.

I am in the process of asking my Dad to take out a personal loan to make it easier to go. I hope he can come up with the goods!!!! I must say I do feel a bit annoyed that I am the only one putting any effort into the visa, and I fear it may cause even more trouble:mad:!!! My husband says I have hit him over the head with the whole thing and it is now "my project"!!!

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not a nice position to be in, hope that the relationship can endure.
No nice doesn't come into the equation at all. I just want to pack up and go. In fact our lease runs out in July, so I am working toward biting that bullet and just going. I have been miserable about it for the past 3 years, so now is time for action. Just need to get my loan and we are off.................:)

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doI've been away about 10 years too. It was a bit of a shock to see how expensive things had got when we went last year. I'm a bit worried about the job market but then I seem to remember there be 'no jobs' back in the early 1990's and I still managed to end up employed despite my best efforts to dole bludge. So let's hope that where there's a will there's a way.

What's really funny is it was my stupid idea to come back here to have my son. Otherwise we'd have stayed in Indonesia where I was working and life was cheap and the pay was fab. Doh!

It's a bummer your husband isn't keen. Perhaps that's just the depression talking and he's seeing the negative side of everything? I agree with you, the main reason we're going is because of our son. It feels criminal to bring him up in this environment when the opportunity is there at our feet for some sort of better life.
 
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