[CCMS]

Hey JTeam,

Goodluck!!! Me and my partner have not been together as long as you have but our relationship is strong. Of course under the eyes of the law, its not about how we feel, its all about proof.

For example, we are not one of those couples who love having our photos taken. We enjoy soaking in the moment, basking in each others company, kissing, chit chating, etc. But now everytime we go on a date I feel obligated to take a selfie of us, keep the receipt etc. It really changes the dynamics.

guess that's the way it is for the next few years...

Sheeling

Selfies really aren't that much value as evidence and neither are random receipts. You want to take a far more comprehensive and systemic approach than that. It is amazing the amount of formal evidence that can be generated if you put your mind to it. Also, if you are still going on " dates", how developed is your relationship at this stage?

 

[CCMS]

Hi Nick,

I understand I will have to substantiate my case with stronger evidences than a random selfie. Joint accounts, insurance, lease agreement etc. Thank you for highlighting that. What I am trying to say is that I have to be more aware of our arrangements towards our case from now on once we start the application process and not just leave things to chance.

Each couple is unique and different. We do what we enjoy in my relationship and that include going out on date nights. My close friend who is married who 10 years still dress up and go on dates with her husband. so whose to say how develop my relationship is? We envision still going out on dates in our 60s.

Sheeling

Nothing wrong with " dating" the way you explain it. You may just want to be a bit careful with the terminology you use in your application. A case officer could well decide to make something out of it.

I understand what you say about the collection of evidence and how it can make you a bit self- conscious about the whole thing. Just try and make it a routine thing to collect absolutely everything for potential future use. And go easy on the selfies. It's a bit like people experiencing travel or an entire concert through their smart phone instead of really experiencing the moment...Just do what comes natural. Most useful photos are with friends and family or with clearly identifiable landmarks or in simple, every day home situations.