It’s very unfair. I’ve been waiting 12 weeks today for my 801. Seeing two 801 grants on Facebook this morning gave me some hope, both granted in 3 months.
Hoping that yours come soon for you. It really seems to be dragging on and is sometimes very concerning.
My situation is that we started dating in 2013, applied 820/801 Sept 2018, granted 820 June 2020, applied for 801 August 2020, and yes we are still waiting for the 801 to be granted 7 months later. We have been married for 5 years now.
Wishing you well and try not to stress too much. I go for cycle rides along the river when this waiting gets me down.