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Hi Everyone! I’m helping and also seeking an advice for a friend who currently staying at women’s shelter. Her problem started 2 months ago. She is married for 1 year and she came in Australia last September. She noticed that her husband’s attitude change. She was forced to have s*x twice a day and if she refuse he told her that he paid a lot of money for her visa application and ticket. Also he always reminds her that she should give him what he wants because she is his wife. Last week she went to the doctor and found out that she have infection. She didn’t mentioned to me what type. The doctor advised her to not having physical contact for 2 weeks. Friday night her husband was really mad because he wants s*x but she is still ill. He said he will not accept her excuses and they had argument. She had enough ( she told me) and yesterday she call DV and stay in women’s shelter. Her current visa is bridging A ( applied partner visa already) and she’s still don’t know what will happen next. I don’t have any idea as well because I’m not an expert. Will the immigration will cancel her visa? Or will they let her stay and grant her partner visa? Thanks in advance!
 

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If no sex, then no marriage. This is not going to end well.

If I was in her shoes, would go home. If I was in his shoes, would send her home.

And, in fact, I have been in his shoes, and did send her home. She subsequently repented and said she wanted be with me, but I was burned bad enough the first time.

But that was only a visitor tourist visa, not a permanent partner visa.

Which is why you want to try it with several tourist visits before the permanent partner visa. When things go wrong, you have sunk less money.
 

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If no sex, then no marriage. This is not going to end well.

If I was in her shoes, would go home. If I was in his shoes, would send her home.

And, in fact, I have been in his shoes, and did send her home. She subsequently repented and said she wanted be with me, but I was burned bad enough the first time.

But that was only a visitor tourist visa, not a permanent partner visa.

Which is why you want to try it with several tourist visits before the permanent partner visa. When things go wrong, you have sunk less money.
There is a very good chance they will be granted the PR visa. For the way you just described.
 

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If no sex, then no marriage. This is not going to end well.

If I was in her shoes, would go home. If I was in his shoes, would send her home.

And, in fact, I have been in his shoes, and did send her home. She subsequently repented and said she wanted be with me, but I was burned bad enough the first time.

But that was only a visitor tourist visa, not a permanent partner visa.

Which is why you want to try it with several tourist visits before the permanent partner visa. When things go wrong, you have sunk less money.
I think there is a very good reason why seperate sponsorship applications are being introduced. Forcing someone to have sex is abuse. The unfortunate lady may still be able to be granted PR and hopefully the abusive fellow won't be able to sponsor any more partners.
 

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If no sex, then no marriage. This is not going to end well.

If I was in her shoes, would go home. If I was in his shoes, would send her home.

And, in fact, I have been in his shoes, and did send her home. She subsequently repented and said she wanted be with me, but I was burned bad enough the first time.

But that was only a visitor tourist visa, not a permanent partner visa.

Which is why you want to try it with several tourist visits before the permanent partner visa. When things go wrong, you have sunk less money.
You stated you have been in his shoes!!!!! I.e. Sexual abuser. That is a crime here in Australia. Your post is that of a creep.
 
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If no sex, then no marriage. This is not going to end well.

If I was in her shoes, would go home. If I was in his shoes, would send her home.

And, in fact, I have been in his shoes, and did send her home. She subsequently repented and said she wanted be with me, but I was burned bad enough the first time.

But that was only a visitor tourist visa, not a permanent partner visa.

Which is why you want to try it with several tourist visits before the permanent partner visa. When things go wrong, you have sunk less money.
Force someone to have Sex is abuse, marriage is about a commitment and it seems you had been in wrong place. If my partner has forced me to do something I didn't want to do, I'll call the cop immediately. Because abuse can be physical or verbal. That's not the way to treat your partner especially when you are marriage because your wife isn't a trash bin! She is a woman
 

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The woman's shelter should be able to point her in the right direction for visa information and process.
A social worker will talk to her tomorrow to ask more information about what happened. She told me that she's ready to go back to her home country rather than suffer.
 

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A social worker will talk to her tomorrow to ask more information about what happened. She told me that she's ready to go back to her home country rather than suffer.
The social worker will be well equipped and resourced to assist your friend.

He may have a few issues that need defending or accepting to orders without guilt. Defending requires going to court and the associated costs, accepting orders without guilt is judicial evidence of Domestic Violence.

Evidence of Domestic Violence is grounds for a Permanent Residence Visa grant in the Partner Visa Applications when the applicant is onshore.

FYI - There is a lot of help around for your female friend and none for her male partner.
 

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There is a Family Violence provision now so partner visa holders who have been abused can stay in Australia. They do NOT have to put up with abuse of any kind (physical, financial, psychological, etc) from their partners:
"Partner visa holders do not have to remain in an abusive relationship to stay in Australia
In Australia, domestic and family violence is not accepted.
A partner, family members or other people in the community cannot threaten your visa status.
If you hold a temporary Partner visa (subclass 300, 309 or 820) and experience family violence and your relationship ends, there are provisions in Australia's migration laws to allow you to continue with your permanent Partner visa (subclass 100 or 801) application."
More info here: https://www.dss.gov.au/women/public...ng-violence/family-violence-and-partner-visas
 

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There is a Family Violence provision now so partner visa holders who have been abused can stay in Australia. They do NOT have to put up with abuse of any kind (physical, financial, psychological, etc) from their partners:
"Partner visa holders do not have to remain in an abusive relationship to stay in Australia
In Australia, domestic and family violence is not accepted.
A partner, family members or other people in the community cannot threaten your visa status.
If you hold a temporary Partner visa (subclass 300, 309 or 820) and experience family violence and your relationship ends, there are provisions in Australia's migration laws to allow you to continue with your permanent Partner visa (subclass 100 or 801) application."
More info here: https://www.dss.gov.au/women/public...ng-violence/family-violence-and-partner-visas
Rubbish the only protections are for one sex - females. Show me any help or assistance for males in an abusive relationship or how the Immigration Department deal with DV against a male including a same sex relationship.
 

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Not new, been thru it a few years ago - very one sided.

Lots of tactics used to try for the judicial evidence at any cost or inconvenience, but that is another story
 

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If no sex, then no marriage. This is not going to end well.

And, in fact, I have been in his shoes, and did send her home. She subsequently repented and said she wanted be with me, but I was burned bad enough the first time.

But that was only a visitor tourist visa, not a permanent partner visa.

Which is why you want to try it with several tourist visits before the permanent partner visa. When things go wrong, you have sunk less money.
So if I am reading this correctly, you condone sexual abuse? When things go wrong (meaning when she doesn't comply)? She repented? What kind of monster are you? If I knew her, or it was my relative, your gait would never be the same again...
 
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