[MSK]

Hello friends,
I need to bring attention to all young people who believes in long term relationships.

My friend who is graduated from UK came back to her hometown (Asia) to pursue her career . being 26 years old all she wanted to get settled in life .Through mutual friend she was introduced to this guy who is PR holder of Australia.
she used to talk to him over the phone and fell for him right away because he lied about his personality and acted like most generous, innocent guy.Before marrying my friend he played sympathy card by telling my friend that he was married to this western girl probably from US but he has left her because she did cheat on him with some other guy and got pregnant. My friend being NAIVE fell for all those BULLSHITS and got married to him. since they got married the problem has started. Firstly the guy lied about his first marriage and cheated story, he actually married to her and had baby but unfortunately they both got separated because of some genetic problems.

Now problem is that guy has some mental issue and he has confessed it to my friend over whatsapp chat. The guy and the mother in Law both has done enough character assassination of my friend in the past two years of marriage.
While stayed in contact with the EX wife (which my friend thinks its ok to ask about his son BUT why to lie about it). The friends mother in law tried to break the marriage of my friend sister as well by calling in their house just right before the marriage. The INLAWS has done too much damage still my friend stayed quiet because she dosent want to get labeled of divorce. The guy has drove my friend nuts.

Now mother in law is looking for another bride and he wants my friend to apply for a divorce. The family is blackmailing the girl which is absolutely wrong. Let me tell you one more thing the guy elder brother and sister have been married twice as well. they love to play with people.


Do you have some suggestion for my friend as she in distress. what should she do ? WHY did he waste her time and emotionally tortured her ?

 

[Skybluebrewer]

First of all, how can you label the guy as Aussie if he's only a PR holder and then throw Aussies under the bus as if they all treat people like this? This has nothing to do with what visas or citizenship a person holds. And this dude isn't Aussie anyway.

Second, if your friend is truly in an abusive relationship (abuse can come in many forms, not just physical), then the best way for you to help her is to get her professional help. Give her a list and phone numbers of organizations that can help her.

 

[MSK]

Second, if your friend is truly in an abusive relationship (abuse can come in many forms, not just physical), then the best way for you to help her is to get her professional help. Give her a list and phone numbers of organizations that can help her.

organization in her native country or from Australia

 

[Skybluebrewer]

I would say any organization that is near to where she currently is.

 

[MSK]

I will no longer talk with you and our marriage and relationship is over.you have no legal right to call me after that or try to maintain contact.you can apply for divorce or you can keep waiting as under Australian law I have to wait 1 year after intention of divorce to legally serve you the papers.....

this is the email send to my friend from that guy .so are they divorced just like this ? over the email ?

 

[MSK]

if you try to harass me or file any reports or call my friends or family ,there will be no forgiveness as after divorce you are a stranger and I dont want any strangers to interfere in my life.I hope you will respect my privacy. if you cross red lines, my family will visit your home to discuss that you shouldnt be filing wrong police reports,calling people I know! peace is a better option and not wasting your time is a wiser choice for you ..... (this is the email forward by the guy)
IS THAT MEAN THEY ARE DIVORCED ?

 

[Aussie83]

sadly con artists come from and live anywhere in the world. no point trying to work out how and why these oxygen thieves do anything.

first up as with any abusive relationship your friend needs to cut ties and leave the relationship.

not sure what help you are trying to ask for as there isn't enough information.
do you mean for immigration side of things? in which case would be better suited to at least consult a MARA agent. no mention of what visa she is on, eat.

how to leave a relationship? each local area has their own organisations to assist.

Hello friends,
I need to bring attention to all young people who believes in long term relationships.

My friend who is graduated from UK came back to her hometown (Asia) to pursue her career . being 26 years old all she wanted to get settled in life .Through mutual friend she was introduced to this guy who is PR holder of Australia.
she used to talk to him over the phone and fell for him right away because he lied about his personality and acted like most generous, innocent guy.Before marrying my friend he played sympathy card by telling my friend that he was married to this western girl probably from US but he has left her because she did cheat on him with some other guy and got pregnant. My friend being NAIVE fell for all those BULLSHITS and got married to him. since they got married the problem has started. Firstly the guy lied about his first marriage and cheated story, he actually married to her and had baby but unfortunately they both got separated because of some genetic problems.

Now problem is that guy has some mental issue and he has confessed it to my friend over whatsapp chat. The guy and the mother in Law both has done enough character assassination of my friend in the past two years of marriage.
While stayed in contact with the EX wife (which my friend thinks its ok to ask about his son BUT why to lie about it). The friends mother in law tried to break the marriage of my friend sister as well by calling in their house just right before the marriage. The INLAWS has done too much damage still my friend stayed quiet because she dosent want to get labeled of divorce. The guy has drove my friend nuts.

Now mother in law is looking for another bride and he wants my friend to apply for a divorce. The family is blackmailing the girl which is absolutely wrong. Let me tell you one more thing the guy elder brother and sister have been married twice as well. they love to play with people.

Do you have some suggestion for my friend as she in distress. what should she do ? WHY did he waste her time and emotionally tortured her ?

 

[ampk]

[QUOTEMSK :- I will no longer talk with you and our marriage and relationship is over.

** This is a fair statement

you have no legal right to call me after that or try to maintain contact.

** This only is a fair statement if a protection or other court order is in place.

you can apply for divorce or you can keep waiting as under Australian law I have to wait 1 year after intention of divorce to legally serve you the papers.....

** This is pretty much true.


this is the email send to my friend from that guy .so are they divorced just like this ? over the email ?

** I would think that this is not just one email for a broken relationship! I suggest you will also be bias in your commentary on this, as one is a friend the other you dislike.

 

[MSK]

[QUOTEMSK :- I will no longer talk with you and our marriage and relationship is over.

** This is a fair statement

you have no legal right to call me after that or try to maintain contact.

** This only is a fair statement if a protection or other court order is in place.

you can apply for divorce or you can keep waiting as under Australian law I have to wait 1 year after intention of divorce to legally serve you the papers.....

** This is pretty much true.

this is the email send to my friend from that guy .so are they divorced just like this ? over the email ?

** I would think that this is not just one email for a broken relationship! I suggest you will also be bias in your commentary on this, as one is a friend the other you dislike.

This is not about being biased .I am just trying to help someone who has gone through alot . i need a suggestion not commentary

 

[ampk]

This is not about being biased .I am just trying to help someone who has gone through alot . i need a suggestion not commentary

Walk a few yards in my shoes and you will see alot!

There is extreme amounts of help for females in such situations and millions of $'s of government money - show me a $ for the male in the same situation.

Not saying your friend is not in a bad position, but it is Chinese Whispers and that makes replies hard,

 

[Maggie-May24]

This is an immigration forum. If she is looking at visa options, she should contact a registered migration agent for advice. If she's looking for relationship options, she should contact a family lawyer or look for a relationship forum (this isn't one).

 

[ampk]

This is an immigration forum. If she is looking at visa options, she should contact a registered migration agent for advice. If she's looking for relationship options, she should contact a family lawyer or look for a relationship forum (this isn't one).

The tone is very much Domestic Violence and that is very much a immigration issue.

 

[Maggie-May24]

The tone is very much Domestic Violence and that is very much a immigration issue.

Quite possibly, which is why I suggested she speak with a migration agent. It's not entirely clear from the posts though if she is even in Australia or has applied from a partner visa. All the posters questions are related to the relationship, divorce, etc. and this isn't the forum for that.

 

[behappy99]

This looks like a muslim family where divorce is verbal and wife has no claim on husband and his house. Given such condition she is confuesed now what to do? Where to go because she is immigrant and her visa status gets affected by this verbal divorce, she may be feeling lonely in foreign country and absolutely no friend/family near to help her out. I may be completely wrong this is just a wild guess.

If you really need help you should be very specific about the problem and ask for what options available. Half info no one will be able to understand the problem itself and forget about the solution.

If you are worried about revealing details puts u in uncomfortable position and scared of revealing identity u better consult a lawyer for domestic violence or a Mara agent about visa/immigration status after divorce. You cant discuss personal problems in public forums and find help.

I wish, you get help soon. god bless you.