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Old 01-20-2015, 10:30 PM
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Relationship Breakdown PMV

I sponsored my wife on a PMV. It was approved late 2013.

She came to Australia with her two sons soon after the visa was approved.

From the first week, I couldn't cope with her temper. Anyway, I put up with it and tried to calm her down.

Over time, the bullying and verbal abuse continued. She would go through my phone to check if I had any texts from females. She never found anything but it didn't stop her accusing me.

She'd get annoyed if my ex-wife texted me, when all she'd text me was important things about my daughter, for example pick up time from school etc.On one occasion, she smashed my phone on the floor.

Anyway, to cut a long story short, I had to end the relationship. Everytime I asked her to leave, she wouldn't.

She went back to Colombia last November. When she got there, I told her in no uncertain terms that it was over, and that I have emailed immigration directly, and through our agent that the relationship was over.

I didn't hear from her after the first week when she was begging for me to re-consider.

Then, out of the blue, 1am Friday morning I was awoken by her calling my name from outside. I went downstairs, and she was accompanied by two police officers.

The cops told me that this woman is my wife and she doesn't feel safe returning home.

I was in shock. WTF?!?! I've never been abusive towards her. In fact, I've put up with alot of crap from her and I have witnesses.

A quick Google search tells me that she will try to claim "abuse", even verbal to get a permanent Visa which we are still waiting on a decision.

Now she is in my home. We are in separate rooms, but The tension and stress is getting too much for me. I have offered to move out and change the lease to have only her name but she's refused.

For the first three days she's been back, she was threatening me with lawyers and how I "abused" her etc...

Then she changed her tune to try to get back with me. I don't want to be with her. I have to question her motives for coming back.

Anyone else been in a similar situation?

What can I do to cover myself?

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Hello Papi,
Sorry to hear about your situation, firstly I would be seeking qualified legal advice, and also making a report at your local police station so you threats / abusive situation has been reported and recorded. Secondly if you feel unsafe in your situation I would be moving out to relatives or friends.

Just so i have a clear understanding, PMV so you were not married before your wife entered Australia and you married within the 9 months of the PMV ?
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Hello Papi,
Sorry to hear about your situation, firstly I would be seeking qualified legal advice, and also making a report at your local police station so you threats / abusive situation has been reported and recorded. Secondly if you feel unsafe in your situation I would be moving out to relatives or friends.

Just so i have a clear understanding, PMV so you were not married before your wife entered Australia and you married within the 9 months of the PMV ?
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Yes, we got married within the 9 months. Even then, she was always pushy as to when we'd get the marriage done. We fought every week and I was unsure if I wanted to marry her. But she has a way with words. And I just assumed she'd change.

I can't afford a lawyer. I called one of the police officers who accompanied her that night, and she said don't worry because no criminal charges have been laid yet. I mean WTF?! I am not used to dealing with the police let alone listening to police talk....Apart from a few speeding fines.

Like I said, now she's changed her tune to trying to be nice and keeps saying how we should repair our marriage.

I really think she's being advised by someone, because when I discuss on SMS the abuse she gave me, she doesn't reply directly to my comments.

I don't want to snoop in her room to find out what paperwork she has.

I just spoke to immigration, and they say that my email has been received and they are aware of my situation that the relationship has ended.


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Old 01-21-2015, 12:47 AM
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might be good idea to consult / contact legal Aid


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Thanks for that, I might give that a go. Won't that make things more stressful?!

I just want this whole thing to go away. I wish it was as simple as Immigration cancelling her visa so she can piss off home.


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Old 01-21-2015, 01:06 AM
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more than likely that will not happen seen now you are married


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Is she on an 820?

See this is what pisses me off about the process how they all seem to know about claiming domestic violence.

She will need actual proof for it and that you canceled the sponsorship with DIBP already will help too.

I am so sorry you have to go through this.

Did DIBP say how long it will take?


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Old 01-21-2015, 02:02 AM
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Is she on an 820?

See this is what pisses me off about the process how they all seem to know about claiming domestic violence.

She will need actual proof for it and that you canceled the sponsorship with DIBP already will help too.

I am so sorry you have to go through this.

Did DIBP say how long it will take?
Thanks Mish.

They didn't say how long it will take. She's not yet on an 820. She's on a bridging visa until the 820 is approved, which is what she was waiting for before I sent her home.

Then...she came back with her 8 year old son! Apparently her 19 year old son is returning next week. And if I get my wish of their visa being cancelled, Guess who has to pay for them to return? Me!


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Thanks Mish.

They didn't say how long it will take. She's not yet on an 820. She's on a bridging visa until the 820 is approved, which is what she was waiting for before I sent her home.

Then...she came back with her 8 year old son! Apparently her 19 year old son is returning next week. And if I get my wish of their visa being cancelled, Guess who has to pay for them to return? Me!
Really if the sponsor cancels the sponsorship it should be done within 28 days 2 months max. It would be great if they could give them some sort of priority. Otherwise they are just open to loopholes.

It is sad that this has happened to you


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Old 01-21-2015, 03:11 AM
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Mish agree unfortunately I can see the possible direction this may be heading, she has already contacted police, next step AVO then Papi that means you will have to move out, this is the reason I suggest strongly you make a police report (with no further action) just to document the situation, then perhaps you suggest counseling this will be in your favor as to finding a resolution.
How can she refuse you to move out and change the lease of the property you are renting ?


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