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Old 09-17-2012, 11:34 PM
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Unhappy bc 100. relationship problems

I got pr on march 2012. My husband wants to withdraw his sponsership due to relationship problem. From last year I am living in india with my daughter. She is austrqalian citizen and from this relation.after got pr I did not come back to austalia due to my husband. He did not want I will stay in austalia any more he keep my and my daughter passport with him. Due to health problem of my daughter I am planning to settle in austalia. Please guide me and please help by answer of few queries

1.* If he withdraw his sponsership.still I will be elegible to. Come and stay in austalia.i have not entered in australia on bc 100.because rite now I am in india and staying in india from last one year.

2.after settle in austalia. If he will doing same harrassment.can govt will protect me and my daughter

3.as we are not legally seprated. Do I am elegible for security benifits


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Thanks in advance for your suggestion.


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1. Don't worry you can stay in Australia and you are free to travel from and to Australia for 5 years from when your PR is granted. Make sure you return to Australia within this timeframe.

2. If he seriously harasses you, go to the police. Or move to a different state in the first place to avoid him.

3. Not sure what you mean by that

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Old 09-18-2012, 12:24 AM
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Thanks for you reply.

3. What are the obstracles he can create on my road so I will not come back to austalia .how I can tackle these obstracles.

As we are not legally separted, I wil come to austalia I will need govt help like search job, family assistance, and baby benefits, because he is taking all benefits on behalf of us, to start life as a single mother in austalia , I. Will need govt help, do I a, elegible without separation,

I am in problem because I donot know anyone in austalia.
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1. Don't worry you can stay in Australia and you are free to travel from and to Australia for 5 years from when your PR is granted. Make sure you return to Australia within this timeframe.

2. If he seriously harasses you, go to the police. Or move to a different state in the first place to avoid him.

3. Not sure what you mean by that


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Ok. Look if you already have PR you can return to Australia whenever you want. Once your relationship is past the 2nd stage of the visa application it doesn't matter if your relationship breaks down.
However, if you are worried about him harrassing you and you don't know anyone in Aus anyways, I would suggest two things:
a) Dont tell him that you are coming back
b) Move to a different city/state

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Ok. Look if you already have PR you can return to Australia whenever you want. Once your relationship is past the 2nd stage of the visa application it doesn't matter if your relationship breaks down.
However, if you are worried about him harrassing you and you don't know anyone in Aus anyways, I would suggest two things:
a) Dont tell him that you are coming back
b) Move to a different city/state
@ German girl; Thank u vry much. Now I got tension free from his side. Its great help from your side


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No worries. I'm glad I could help you and that you feel a bit better now.

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After going through all the posts issued by you, I want to ask some question from you before giving any advice:-

1. So many times you mentioned that he will do this, he will do that. Can you pls. confirm what actually has he done until now? You initially came to Australia in March 2010 on Visa class 309 then how come your application for VC 100 lodged in Nov. 2011, almost 5 months earlier than prescribed 2 years of continuous relationship (department requirement) period if his intention was not good (seems impossible to achieve without his commitment)? Didnít he provide all the supporting documents to department for second stage of your case?

2. Why he got so desperate to cancel your sponsorship (as you claim) within few weeks of providing documents? Why he initially filed your PR as you are already admitting that there were some family issues? Only 2 possibilities either he is crazy human being or you are the biggest liar alive on this world. Donít you think that may be actual issue is your behaviour as apparently he has fulfilled all his responsibilities of being a husband?

3. If you claim that he didnít want to live with you then why is he waiting on you for cancellation of sponsorship? Pls. be advised that it is his legal responsibility to inform the department about any changes of circumstances. Shouldnít you have told in Nov 2011 that you have no intention to continue this relationship?

4. Has he reported until today to immigration that you didnít inform department about your intentions of not continuing the relationship and you started living separate well in time before your 2 yrs tenure?

5. Clearly, you need to work bit more on your own definitions and understanding of relationships. Biological father always remain same but there can be different persons supporting you financially during your life. What point you want to make by saying that your daughter is from this relationship but he is not her biological father? Logically, if he is not your daughterís biological father (as you said) then why are you complaining that much?

6. On what basis, you can say that he doesnít have any feelings for her daughter? May be he still starts his day looking at her daughterís picture on the front wall of his bed? May be he starts his day at work by punching her name in the keyboard to start his computer? May be he goes to bed with a hope to meet his daughter soon? If you canít feel something then should everybody assume that it doesnít exist? Pls. try to understand his feelings towards his daughter with the images you have of them together for first 9 months.

7. Was he really not calling his daughter, pls. try to put some pressure on your brain or contact your parents back in India? May be he uses to contact her but you were use to abuse him & award with different abusive titles every time over the phone similar to LABELLED FATHER? Unfortunately, 14-16 months old children are unable to manage mobiles as well. How you are so sure that he was not in touch through other resources? For eg. Pls. check message sent to your face book again, Dt. 01 Nov 2012, 10:57 PM AEST, ďA lot of Love to XXXXX.Ē While you were busy to nominate him as ďLABEL DADĒ online. Have your parents on your instructions returned birthday gift with message sent by him to his daughter on 23.03.2013?


8. You said he is a labelled Dad, how you can support your claim? Didnít he request you to leave the daughter with him? (May be he did, you would have said ďno, I canít live without herĒ and then he replied ďone of us have to do the sacrifice and he will do it for the sake of his daughter in hope of living together soon.)

9. What kind of special Medical conditions your daughter has and how it is affecting her while stay in India? Do you have any medical certificate or it is all bullshit as usual just to blame him? Apparently, so called medical condition (which actually donít exist) doesnít sound that serious as she managed 16 months in India and doing really fine (going to school since age of 1.2 yrs) and her growth is normal.

10. Do you have true intention to bring your daughter? If yes, then why you refusing his offer to sign the consent letter for new passport insisting that you only want the original which he doesnít have?

11. You blamed him for the Govt. Financial Assistance. Have you checked with centre link before blaming him or this is your assumption only, what he has claimed until now (easily recoverable)? As you were not working, who was taking care of house hold expenses such as house rent, internet, electricity, grocery, water, gardening and other social expenses? Any additional govt. support or any support from your parents back home? Who funded your trip and training to India?

12. Were you PR and eligible to claim the centre link benefits when your daughter born? Didnít he open a separate joint bank account under both parents name for the centre link baby benefits? If no then you may be right, pls. check your facts first.

13. I couldnít understand how he crossed borders with three passports, which almost impossible? If he had returned you all other documents then why not passport, if he had commonsense he would also knew that it is not complicated to get a duplicated one so no use of keeping it? Have you ever reported this to police? If not then why?

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Dear Manjit,
Keep the things simple.
Mutual Trust is the base of all relationships and especially where you living together all the time, it also becomes really crucial. Being honest and truthful are two qualities which can help you to achieve that. If you find anything familiar in above story them rethink of your actions until now, you may not need any advice from anyone.
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Patrick - while I appreciate you were trying to help, this thread is nine months old, and I'm guessing OP's issue has been resolved one way or the other by now.

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[QUOTE=Patrick_1988;98402][FONT="Book Antiqua"][SIZE="3"]After going through all the posts issued by you, I want to ask some question from you before giving any advice:-
Patrick:- I really feel bad to listen all the story u mention on this thread

This is me and my husband story and it is different from your story, Am I rite. Not any incident which you mention happened in my case, case very from parents to parents. It seems You are a father of the story or description u mention. If yes, I will defiantly pray for you, and we all will pray.

If its your's own story which you mention. Can I ask you one question, If u really or any father kept passport and ready to sign consent as you mention, where is the passport. who kept the passport. Anywhere passport should? If you and (that father u mention in ur description) are anxiously waiting for his daughter why he will not apply his daughter passport bzs In this country both has rite to take decision for their children.


I do't know much about urself, But what can i image u are a father of a lucky daughter, But my daughter is not lucky as ur's daugther,

I ca't say any thing about ur's story, what i can say only one thing or may be all will agree about my point " For 16 month baby- its very hard to manage without parents". I can imagine because My baby is far from me.

Now you question raise about my Story or discussion, why he has not withdraw his sponsership" Answer is :- He has already withdraw his sponsership in december 2011. When i came to australia in january 2013 , Then i came to know, he has already withdraw the file but immigration department grant it bzs once i inform the police about the domestic violence complaint about my parent. and once you compaint about domestic violence against your partner and it get proves by department you donot need to get any supportive document from your partner.

You mention about the medical Condition about my daughter:-

Two days she was very sick bzs she could not able to manage without her me, Now slowly slowly she manage to learn to live without her me, Me is in the hope to meet.



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