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Editor 05-02-2013 10:54 AM

How long do you think it will take you/has taken you to settle in Australia?
 
It is only human nature to have second thoughts when making such a major change in your life such as moving to Australia. It would be interesting to see how long people think it will take them to settle in the country and indeed for those who have been there for some time, how long it took them to settle in Australia.

Ozz777 05-02-2013 11:17 AM

I've been living in Australia for just over 17 months and while I am nowhere near settled and feeling at home, I feel much more settled than a year ago. Things that have helped are; finding a job, finding a church, making friends, getting to know the area and customs, and the birth of my son here. We are in the process of planning a move to a suburb much closer to Melbourne, her family, better jobs and services. I think that will help as well. I can't imagine this country ever feeling completely like home, but I didn't feel at home in most of the US states I've lived in either, so it's no biggy.

Editor 05-02-2013 11:22 AM

Hi Ozz777

Many thanks for your comments which make very interesting reading. It seems as though you are becoming more and more settled as time goes by but you also mention an array of interesting factors to take into consideration.

Feeling settled means many different things to many different people such as financial security, safety, happy family life and meeting new friends. In all honesty I dont think there is a cut off point where everyone will feel settled in their new found homeland as we are all very different.

louiseb 05-02-2013 01:50 PM

To be honest i think it depends on what you have left behind in my case it was my parents and son ( for the time being) so it has being very hard for me to settle here, but after allot of encouragement from people on the forum im finding it allot easier to settle after 9 weeks of being here.
Also for those that have left very little behind i think it depends on the job situation it can be very stressful for people not having a job, having to rely on there partners for pocket money lets say, after all most foreigners dont have benefits here not like some countries where social security is available to every tom dick and harry.

Editor 05-02-2013 02:36 PM

Hi Louise,

I think you have hit on another very important factor.

I know from our conversations that you did your home work in depth, but some people automatically assume that the services available, costs, government benefits, etc will all be the same in their new homeland compared to their former homeland. It is very rare for this to be the case as many people find out to their surprise.

Valentine1981 05-02-2013 10:55 PM

I've been here for almost 5 years now and it's only really been in the last year and half that it's really started to feel like 'home'. After my first WHV I very nearly gave up and went back to Europe. It's very difficult moving so far away from family and friends when you have someone waiting for you at the other end. I came out here on my own just because I needed to find myself again. Cheesy as that sounds. I don't think it ever gets easier being away from family. I only see my brother once every 2 years or so,thankfully my parents are in a financial position to visit once a year and thanks to technology and Skype we see each other every week. The issue once you have 'settled' is that the nature of temporary visa's means that you always have that expiration date hanging over your head. Hence why I am now taking the first steps towards PR and being able to properly start the rest of my life with my love here in Australia.

Nelly87 05-03-2013 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Editor (Post 91364)
It is only human nature to have second thoughts when making such a major change in your life such as moving to Australia. It would be interesting to see how long people think it will take them to settle in the country and indeed for those who have been there for some time, how long it took them to settle in Australia.

Well I've learned the Irish are always right.

The woman that did my waxing in The Netherlands was Irish and married to a Dutch man. When I told her I was going to move to Australia and asked her what it's like to emigrate, she said: "Of course I miss home. But if you get through the first year, you're good. The first year is the hardest."

I got here on 31 January 2012 and to be honest it must have been around early February 2013 that I realized this is home now. Maybe it was because I had just gone back to The Netherlands in December (and realized how much I missed Australia), or maybe it was because we had just applied for our partner visa on 23 January 2013. I don't know. Or maybe because I started my job in Australia in August 2012 and it took me half a year to start genuine friendships there.

May have just been coincidence. But it was exactly a year.

I think it was a combination of all those things. I'm not sure if I would be as settled in without a job, or if I hadn't gone back to The Netherlands to confront my sometimes obsessive homesickness from the first year, or if we hadn't just applied for the visa to make me realize I really do want to stay very, very much. I think it's a coming together of things.

Also it did definitely take me a year to get used to living with my in-laws :D god I love them, and god they love me and are so good to me... but only child, lived alone with a cat for 6 years before my partner and I moved in together... boy oh boy. Sharing my toys. Being around the occasional drama but realizing I shouldn't get involved at all even though I'm living in the middle of it. Tolerating someone else doing my laundry. Sharing a bathroom. "Huntsmen are good spiders, we don't kill them." :D It took me a while.

Editor 05-03-2013 11:27 AM

The human mind is a very powerful tool - one minute we are concerned about various issues and the next everything is all sorted and we wake up with a different outlook on life and where we are. It may be the smallest thing which clicks into place and makes you finally feel settled.


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