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Old 05-09-2013, 05:10 PM
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Weekends are dismal. No work to keep you busy, just 48+ hours of intensly noticing the empty space by your side. And... you know for sure that no word is coming and no work is happening on your visa for the next two days.
I hate weekends.
I hate waiting.
Falling in love shouldnt involve bureaucracy.
*e-hug* I wish I could make things better for you - and for everyone in this forum who is waiting apart from their partner. You have been waiting since December of last year and I'm sure your application was beautifully organized when you submitted it, so your visa grant date must be coming up very, very soon! I know it's hard to believe and accept that when our emotional sides are getting the better of us, but you *will* hear soon - and we are all here to support each other in the meantime!

I only work part time (about 15 hrs a week) at the moment - so I am not nearly as busy as you - but I definitely agree that work, even when stressful, is a wonderful and much needed distraction. I can only imagine how stark the difference between busy work weeks and quiet weekends must feel for you in this waiting game. I really hate being alone with myself because it opens the flood gates to my worries (both logical and not). For me, it helps a lot to spend time with friends (and family) when i can and also to distract myself in other ways that keep my mind occupied. When things get quiet, I almost always play music or TV in the background so that I can tune into the sound and tune out of my worries and sadness

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I am still waiting in the dark. No word. Nothing but "it's processing." I gave up on a quick turnaround and took the job because we were running low on money. Now, even if my visa comes through, I'm stuck here away from him until the contract ends in a few months. No choice though.

At least if the visa comes through, I can sleep at night. Without nightmares of red REJECTION stamps.

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I am still waiting in the dark. No word. Nothing but "it's processing." I gave up on a quick turnaround and took the job because we were running low on money. Now, even if my visa comes through, I'm stuck here away from him until the contract ends in a few months. No choice though.

At least if the visa comes through, I can sleep at night. Without nightmares of red REJECTION stamps.
Well, I was right when I said you were very organized! How often have you been contacting the Embassy to check on the status of your application? Were you ever given an email address for your Case Officer?

I think you made the right choice to accept the job and stay busy working and saving money rather than to have nothing better to do than sit and wait, but it must have been a tough decision. Hopefully, it will give you good experience when you look for work in Australia. Are there any escape clauses in the contract? Is it at all negotiable? When does it expire? Who knows - maybe the end of your contract and the grant of your visa will coincide perfectly!

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That would be terrible. I couldn't take it if I was still waiting to hear at the end of July. (That's when I can leave... after that I should be OK to work remotely for these guys from Australia.)

I have contacted 3 times, approximately 1 month apart each. Twice it was to update my phone number, and once was to ask if we could buy a sail boat and sail back to Australia, or if that would get us in trouble if we were out of range and the CO wanted more info. It was iffy, so when it didn't work out we were ok with that.

We do not have our case officer's email address. Just his last name and first initial.

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I'm jealous of that, too. Really wish we could do that - but moving me over there is expensive, the big wedding we want to have back here is expensive, the ring he's buying me is expensive, getting my cat over expensive... it just would not be a good financial decision for me to quit my job so I can go wait with him. Sometimes being an adult SUCKS. :P
I completely understand cg my fiancÚ wants to do the same but we would hurt too much financially. I need to work here while I can, soak up my Saturdays OT when they're offered and pray this goes fast. Haven't seen my man since October he was here for ten days. It also took us months to prepare our application. Building a house is very expensive in Australia. So here I sit waiting for him to wake up while I'm working and stalking forums and my email lol.

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I set up a filter to forward any email from the DIAC about my visa to my work email... and now everytime I hear the "ding" that I have an email... my heart skips.

I should take the filter off.

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I get my email on my iPhone. I've only used it for this and for the trip to Disney world we took and of course iTunes. Whenever it goes off I know it's one of those things...seems Disney is sending a lot of spam mail lately! Pissing me off lol.

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Man, I love you guys, but this thread is going to make me cry again. Things have been rough for my fiance the last few weeks, and he's been down. It's been killing me to not be able to be there with him or to do ANYTHING at all to help him. I ended up sending him a card/love letter in the mail... it was all I could think of to do to give him something real and tangible. We haven't even been able to video Skype as much as we're used to because of internet issues. Video skyping via mobile gets you to your data cap fast! :-O

Because of all that he's gone through recently (one thing after another) AND the fact that we got more information that worries us even more about our application being denied on medical grounds, I just have been thisclose to crying all week long. Every little thing would set me off. Talking to my honey on Tuesday helped somewhat as he was a bit more positive, but geez... we waited months until we could even apply because his PR took so long to be processed, and now that we've finally applied we've got five months for processing plus four extra months for medicals being referred and then who knows how long on top of that to fight for a medical waiver... and even then, when the end finally comes, it may just be a denial. I would give anything to just be worrying about WHEN the visa will be approved without the worries about IF it will be approved and what else we'll have to go through to get there. The grass is always greener, I know! I keep thinking, at least we haven't (yet) been rejected like melandabdul was.. I'm trying to be grateful for what we do have.

But it's really hard. Someone else was talking about songs setting them off... well, the morning my fiance flew back to Oz after his two-week visit here, as we were packing up the car right before dawn, Maroon 5's song "Daylight" came on over the loudspeakers of the hotel. This morning I heard it again just as I got to work and had a good cry in the car before going in.

Here's the song for any who don't know it. Pretty much as spot-on as it gets when you're going to put him on a plane as soon as the sun comes up.


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Haha... I cried to that stupid song just last night on my way home from work. I hate being so tightly wound.

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Haha... I cried to that stupid song just last night on my way home from work. I hate being so tightly wound.
Twinsies........

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