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Relationship breakdown just before the second stage, help

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Old 07-11-2019, 10:24 PM
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Relationship breakdown just before the second stage, help

Hi everyone,

My Australian partner and I have been together for 4 years, I am currently on the 820 partner visa and I found out a few days ago that he has been having an affair. I am devastated and after discovering this I don’t think the relationship can continue, so now I am worried about my visa.

I got a letter from immi just 3 weeks ago that I can now submit evidence for the second stage of our visa, but now the relationship is over I’m lost. We are not married and do not have any children, there was also absolutely no DV.

My partner has told me he will help me through all of this, but I don’t want to lie to immigration about our relationship if we aren’t together anymore. I have a job but I don’t know if I am classed as a skilled worker (photographer), and I broke down in front of my employer yesterday but she did not say anything about a sponsorship. Before all of this I had been thinking about leaving to start a new business alone anyway, so I don’t want to take a sponsorship if I was intending to leave. I don’t know what to do.

Any advice would be appreciated, I feel like my whole life and future has been ripped from underneath me.

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Old 07-11-2019, 11:23 PM
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If the relationship ha broken down and there are no children of the relationship, the permanent visa cannot be granted.

Your best option may be to see a registered migration agent and look at your options for skilled or employer sponsored visas.

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I can only imagine how terrible this is for you. Obviously I don't know the details (such as if the affair was a one time event or something ongoing), so can't recommend you what to do.

Just a few thoughts. If I was in this situation I would not make any sudden decisions. Most importantly you have to ask yourself if you still want this relationship to work. If you have been together for four years, then maybe this is something you can get past. You say that you found out a few days ago that he's been having an affair. In that case I would not make any sudden decisions. This would be difficult under any circumstances, but since your visa also depends on it, I would definitely think long and hard about it.

All the best to you and hope you get through this

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Thank you for the responses.

The relationship looks like it will likely end, I doubt I’ll be able to trust him again as it is a huge betrayal and it looks like he may be choosing the other woman over me, but it is early days, although I’m trying to consider all my options so I can prepare if the worst comes to worst. I don’t want to stay in a relationship constantly on edge that it may happen again.

I’m not sure if my profession could be eligible for the skilled migration visa, but I suppose that’s going to be my best option at this stage.

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Also it’s an ongoing affair, it has spanned a few months and doesn’t show signs of stopping 😞

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Old 07-12-2019, 09:19 AM
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Contact a Registered Migration Agent and have a chat on your options, but give that a week so you can get your head together.

There is a sticky of the ones we recommend.

No immediate notification is required to the department, while you are digesting you current relationship issues.

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I have a job but I donít know if I am classed as a skilled worker (photographer)
You may want to investigate this and like others have said, get in touch with a RMA. There may be a light at the end of the dark tunnel you feel like you are in at the moment. Don't lose hope and best of luck!

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Old 07-21-2019, 04:23 AM
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Hello there... just tell the truth to the immigration about your situation. I have a Filipina friend same situation like you. They are together for 7 years & no kids. They broke up fell out of love my Filipina friend decided not to continue their relationship coz it doesn't work anymore. She decided to tell the whole truth to the immigration (by email) and hoping to understanded her. She said she will come back to the Phils if that will be the decision of the immigration. But then her PR was approved. So don't be scared just pray and tell the truth.

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Old 08-19-2019, 12:17 PM
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I understand how devastating your situation is but if you no longer have the continuing relationship with the sponsor, you don't qualify for a defacto visa. anyway, as others mentioned your best option is to go straight to an RMA and give your whole situation and they can advise you an option that will be best in your situation and 100% legal. What city do you live in?

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