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Old 06-27-2014, 06:14 AM
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If you're in an abusive relationship you should just get out of it, regardless of any visa matter. You say you'll have no support if you go back home, but surely you'd have even less support in Australia?

If the relationship does break down and there has been domestic abuse (doesn't have to be physical) it's still possible for you to obtain the sc100 Permanent Residency visa. I'd suggest getting some advice from a professional in how to go about evidencing this.

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As Adam say go speak to a migration agent and see how you.

My main concern is that you have no job so even if you got granted pr you have no way to pay for accommodation etc . Do you have any friends that you can stay with. Even Centrelink don't pay enough for you live off on your own and accommodation in Perth is expensive.

Also as Adam said surely you would have more support back home.

It is sad how he treats you like this. $8 per day is not enough! Can't get you a nice meal as a restaurant, actually can't get you anything at most takeaway places . He should be supporting you better. Even a joint account which you can use.

I wish I lived in Perth to help you. *hugz*

The government (or they do in queensland) offers some free courses. Maybe you could look into doing them? They have a few but child care is one I know that they run.

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When someone signs the sponsor form for the partner visa, they promise they are going to support ALL the applicant's basic needs while the applicant is in Australia. There should be some kind of legal recourse if he's not doing this.
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If you're in an abusive relationship you should just get out of it, regardless of any visa matter. You say you'll have no support if you go back home, but surely you'd have even less support in Australia?

If the relationship does break down and there has been domestic abuse (doesn't have to be physical) it's still possible for you to obtain the sc100 Permanent Residency visa. I'd suggest getting some advice from a professional in how to go about evidencing this.

All the best,
Thank you so much for your help. I am not sure if I should go to get support from the agency to put our relationship as domestic violent for my own good. I think it will affect his life badly if I do it successfully and he will detest me for that. He already thinks im with him just for the visa but I see that this visa just destroy my life when I hand over my independence to his hand. He can tell me to go home anytime he wants and divorce me with my absent and without my consent after a year I leave. How unfair is that? I basically has no right in this situation. Im stuck and feel so hopeless


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As Adam say go speak to a migration agent and see how you.

My main concern is that you have no job so even if you got granted pr you have no way to pay for accommodation etc . Do you have any friends that you can stay with. Even Centrelink don't pay enough for you live off on your own and accommodation in Perth is expensive.

Also as Adam said surely you would have more support back home.

It is sad how he treats you like this. $8 per day is not enough! Can't get you a nice meal as a restaurant, actually can't get you anything at most takeaway places . He should be supporting you better. Even a joint account which you can use.

I wish I lived in Perth to help you. *hugz*

The government (or they do in queensland) offers some free courses. Maybe you could look into doing them? They have a few but child care is one I know that they run.
Thanks Mish. I am not quite sure if my relationship sounds like an abusive one. I almost have no control over anything in this relationship not that I am a c0ntrol freak. I feel not easy to express my feeling to my husband because it will lead to a fight. I know I am not a perfect person but I am trying my best to be honest with my feeling and letting him know. He wants someone who will obey him 100% while I am not like that. He is super sensitive that everything I say can turn to a criticism toward him. I absolutely feel exhausted. I just want an easy way out but I have no support so it is getting harder for me. Going back home with no money and start all over again seem so tough. People at home will not understand and think bad about me. I dont even want to think about going back!!! I want to get a iob here, save some money and come back or go some where else in a better position. But I am still struggling here....

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Thank you so much for your help. I am not sure if I should go to get support from the agency to put our relationship as domestic violent for my own good. I think it will affect his life badly if I do it successfully and he will detest me for that. He already thinks im with him just for the visa but I see that this visa just destroy my life when I hand over my independence to his hand. He can tell me to go home anytime he wants and divorce me with my absent and without my consent after a year I leave. How unfair is that? I basically has no right in this situation. Im stuck and feel so hopeless
But that's the thing, you do have rights and he can't just use the visa as leverage to get you to stay in an abusive relationship. Those rules were put in place to stop people remaining in an abusive relationship to avoid risking the ties they have to Australia.

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As Adam say go speak to a migration agent and see how you.

My main concern is that you have no job so even if you got granted pr you have no way to pay for accommodation etc . Do you have any friends that you can stay with. Even Centrelink don't pay enough for you live off on your own and accommodation in Perth is expensive.

Also as Adam said surely you would have more support back home.

It is sad how he treats you like this. $8 per day is not enough! Can't get you a nice meal as a restaurant, actually can't get you anything at most takeaway places . He should be supporting you better. Even a joint account which you can use.

I wish I lived in Perth to help you. *hugz*

The government (or they do in queensland) offers some free courses. Maybe you could look into doing them? They have a few but child care is one I know that they run.
Why cant I send new reply to Mish?


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But that's the thing, you do have rights and he can't just use the visa as leverage to get you to stay in an abusive relationship. Those rules were put in place to stop people remaining in an abusive relationship to avoid risking the ties they have to Australia.
Hi Adam, I know it shouldnt be that way and this feels so wrong to have to worry about staying or going since I already left my home country for this relationship. I dont see brighter future with him because he wants a different kind of person that I am not.

I am not sure if our relationship is considered an an abusive type. He did swear at me several times when he was mad, asked me to go back to thailand, not sharing his finacial info with me. But he never hit me and he does provide me food, shelter, $8/day. I never asked for more coz I know my position. With all of that I dont think it is enough to call it as an abusive relationship.
All I want now is to have some more time here in aus, find a job, save money to move back to thailand or some where else. I feel so hard to face going back thailand with nothing left compare witj 4 months ago when I still have good job and people around me were happy for me that I made it to be in australia. It will be so embarrassing. I just want to be stronger and stand on my feet again. But first is to find an easy way out and I am stuck at this.


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