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Old 09-09-2014, 03:30 AM
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Maybe she will keep it .

The saying goes ... you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

You don't want to look back in 20 years and say "What would have happened of I had gone to oz to have a face to face chat with her".

Also remember things happen in the heat of the moment.

I will tell you something via PM that I don't want made public.
Gotcha!!!... Thanks Mish


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All relationships have ups and downs, many longer than 28 days - that does not mean it is over even if in writing.

28 days to immigration can mean 5 months if they say it - so I would say nothing.

I would do all to see her asap.

It is a hard road they put us on, Good luck Mate.

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All relationships have ups and downs, many longer than 28 days - that does not mean it is over even if in writing.

28 days to immigration can mean 5 months if they say it - so I would say nothing.

I would do all to see her asap.

It is a hard road they put us on, Good luck Mate.
Greetings Ampk


I love the idea my friend but to fly all the way there and she still throws it all away wouldn't be an option. If I were a little more confident that I could change her mind I would do it but she has said so many horrible things like nothing ever existed. I'm only lead to believe there is someone she is possibly planning to pursue or she is just flat out pissed off and wants to put a wall up to keep me away. I will give it the rest of this month to late October and if I don't hear anything by then I will cancel everything. Again, I love and appreciate your idea my friend but in the mean time just pray 4 us.


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She could be scared, Michael. It could be possible that she is scared of investing all at time and money and then winding up with a rejection.

Also, and this might seem a little off-centre, but it's something I actually did without realising it at the time. She might be testing your love for her

It's hard to be so far from the ones we love and for me, while I did trust my husband and love him, there was sometimes a little niggly worry (not based on anything) that he was off living his life in America separate from me, that anyday he might decide that he doesn't want to come to Australia anymore. Maybe my he would decide it's too much work and that he couldn't leave his home and his family.

I actually behaved a little like your love. I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore and I didn't want to get married and apply for the visa. I didn't mean it, I just wanted to test him and make sure it's what he really wanted. I essentially gave him an "out" if HE was having second thoughts. That could be what she is doing.

On the flip side, when I separated from my ex husband, I gave back my rings and made it very clear that I wasn't going back. I did not keep my rings.

Point is, don't give up just yet. Give her a bit of time and then ask her calmly, once time has elapsed, whether she truly wishes for you to no longer continue the process. Explain that you still want to go through with it, and if she's offering you a way out, that you don't want to take it and will only stop the process if she demands that you do.

GL xxxx

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She could be scared, Michael. It could be possible that she is scared of investing all at time and money and then winding up with a rejection.

Also, and this might seem a little off-centre, but it's something I actually did without realising it at the time. She might be testing your love for her

It's hard to be so far from the ones we love and for me, while I did trust my husband and love him, there was sometimes a little niggly worry (not based on anything) that he was off living his life in America separate from me, that anyday he might decide that he doesn't want to come to Australia anymore. Maybe my he would decide it's too much work and that he couldn't leave his home and his family.

I actually behaved a little like your love. I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore and I didn't want to get married and apply for the visa. I didn't mean it, I just wanted to test him and make sure it's what he really wanted. I essentially gave him an "out" if HE was having second thoughts. That could be what she is doing.

On the flip side, when I separated from my ex husband, I gave back my rings and made it very clear that I wasn't going back. I did not keep my rings.

Point is, don't give up just yet. Give her a bit of time and then ask her calmly, once time has elapsed, whether she truly wishes for you to no longer continue the process. Explain that you still want to go through with it, and if she's offering you a way out, that you don't want to take it and will only stop the process if she demands that you do.

GL xxxx
Hi Star! Is it okay if I PM you? A lot of what u are saying def could be the issue but I want to tell u the exact words and we can take it from there

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Sure thing, Michael!

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